this has been a long running discussion between FilmGuy and myself.
it’s the discussion with regards to his ex.
the one he shares the cutest dog in the world with.
a little history of their relationship – they started off as friends, became best friends, became romantic, lived together, got a dog and broke up when the dog was 6 months or something. they have remained friends after the split for about 4 years. then this past year FilmGuy and The EX have not been getting along all that great which can cause headaches when sharing a dog.
i was happy not having to interact The EX no more the cordial politeness with regards to the dog and as per needed.
fast forward to two months ago. they have now been able to work through their issues.
now the concurring issue has been how I am not comfortable with the idea of “hanging out” with The EX because they are good friends again. this is difficult because they have a lot of mutual friends.
I am having difficulty defending my POV and conveying my argument as to why I don’t want to be around The EX at a party or at a football game, but I was coming around to it. But I was not prepared for CAMPING.
YES. CAMPING. a labour day weekend in Sept. FilmGuy is inviting pals including The EX. Most my friends who camp, either don’t want to go to the site that has been picked due to the nightly cost to sleep on the ground and “restrictions” or are unavailable that weekend. SO now I’m left with his friends [25% whom i like] and the rest who I don’t want to be stuck anywhere with.
FilmGuy’s’s argument is that “this is normal”, “it’s childish behavoir” not to get along with ex’s. Then he gets angry and upset. Mainly because I don’t agree to do this? to do what he wants? all because he says I’m being childish and stupid???
Can anyone tell me WHY I have to spend THREE DAYS with her? ALSO, if FilmGUy and I were to have a party – say celebration of our relationship…AM I OBLIGATED TO INVITE HER??? I don’t want this women in my relationship with FilmGuy and HOW do I tell him that? Because she IS in the relationship already because of the STUPID CUTE DOG.
They were in and out of each other’s lives for the past 10 years. They know everything about each other. AND I HATE IT.
I do know I don’t have to go camping and he will just go without me. I also know that he wouldn’t be hurt or upset or really show any kind of emotion of CARING that I wouldn’t be going. I think that hurts most of all.
So how do I get him to see my side? Is it even possible that he would care?